Faithful through the flames

OWLS – Outstanding Women Leading and Serving. What a great week. This week was about how God is still faithful through highs and lows in our lives & we heard some stories from amazing women about how they stayed faithful to God through the flames in their lives. Here are a few of my takeaways from the week : Stop. Drop. & Roll. Stop: God is going to stop you at some point in your life. Drop: to your knees to God. Roll: towards others.

We are Gods diamonds. He puts us through flames to get our insides to rebuild us.

We are like popcorn. Sin makes us hard. It makes us unchangeable , but through the heat we endure during life & Gods grace, we are able to “pop”

Faith is about being okay, no matter how things turn out.

Be so in love with God that it doesn’t matter if you’re in a relationship or not.

Isaiah 43:1-2.

i n s e c u r e

Insecure: not confident or assure; uncertain or anxious.

We all have them ( don’t even try lying to yourself) these insecurities whatever they might be are holding you back from what you could be.

Here are gonna be 6 steps to help you overcome your insecurities:

  1. Identify them
  2. Practice being objective
  3. Reflect on your successes and how your strengths helped you achieve them
  4. Assess your circumstances
  5. Engage in self – positive talk
  6. Make a full commitment to try to overcome them

I’m gonna give it a shot & share my 6 steps (there’s more non personal stuff below my 6 steps if you’d like to skip there) :

  1. I have an insecurity about being “too good” and also some other really silly ones  that when I type it out makes me feel embarrassed that I get so insecure about them, but when my laugh is definitely not one of the prettiest sounds you’ll hear and when I get to laughing really hard or smiling my eyes get basically non existent and I kind of look like a cabbage patch kid. So, for all the people who see me on a daily basis you’ll probably keep an eye out for that now but hey, it’s totally okay.
  2. By not focusing on these insecurities it’s going to allow me to be the best me and enjoy life. They aren’t as bad as I think they are.
  3. One thing I am proud of is just making the right decisions. The younger me chose to be intentional and make the right decisions and that made making those decisions all I know. My strength of doing the right thing when no one is watching and when it’s not necessarily the “cool” thing has helped me in a ton.
  4. So what I look like a cabbage patch kid when I laugh really hard or I’m a “goody two shoes”? Whats the worst thing thats gonna happen? Someone is gonna make fun of me when I’m genuinely happy or doing the right thing? Big whoop.
  5. I’m gonna do this to the best of my ability, one step at a time, be you & if someone doesn’t like it they don’t deserve you anyway.
  6. It takes 21 days for something to become a habit. For at least 21 days I’m gonna tell myself something positive about myself everyday.

I really don’t have control over the fact my laugh isn’t the prettiest sound, it just happens and it was something I was born with (thank you Jesus for making me unique) God loves me with my crazy laugh so much that he sent his son to die for my sins. I can’t control how I laugh, but I can control things like being kind, being myself, loving people & God’s creations, and making someones day better. I should be putting my focus into things like that rather than my insecurities.

Being insecure comes down to not having confidence. This verse has become part of my foundation.

Proverbs 3:26, For the Lord will be your confidence,
And will keep your foot from being caught.

There aren’t many things I can be confident about that will be there day after day, but the Lord is one of them.

I often find myself looking for my confidence in earthly things like sports, grades, appearance, likes, comments, basically anything that doesn’t help me be a better me.

*if you have made it this far, thank you, i love you, and we are almost finished*

Take out a pen, paper, or just think in your head. Write down or think of at least 5 things you truly love about yourself. Then study these, so you’ll never forget them. This is for when you are struggling with that insecurity or just a trial in your life you can step back and remember, “hey, you’re such a emotionally strong person, you got this” Constantly fill your head with positivity.

Everyone has insecurities, so remember you aren’t alone.

Intentionally be positive.

Love yourself, the real you.

Don’t ask what the world wants.

If there is a characteristic about you that is holding you back, change it. Now is the perfect time.

Praying that your insecurities won’t hold you back from what you could be & what you could experience.

I hope this helps in anyway possible.

With love, aubs (cpk)

Life changes

If you didn’t sing that title then I highly recommend that you go listen to Thomas Rhett’s newest album, Life Changes. (SERIOUSLY SO GOOD) okay sorry for that little  side note. BUT in the new album he has a song called Life Changes. After probably the millionth time I have listened to it the lyrics really stuck out to me. The entire song is him talking about how much his life has changed over the years and he wouldn’t change it for the world.

Personally my favorite lyric is “You make your plans and you hear God laughing”

I’m sure all of us can say that one time in our life we had something perfectly planned out and it doesn’t work out. Have you ever thought to God, why did you let me get so far if you weren’t going to allow it to happen? He lets us get all excited, thinking it’s gonna happen, while he’s up there laughing at us thinking “just wait until she sees what I have planned better for her”. I’ve thought about it and every time God changes what I thought was going to be the best thing to happen to me it really wasn’t. What I wanted to happen so bad was going to in the long run hurt me.

I’m not saying that at the time of those plans falling apart didn’t hurt, or that I didn’t struggle with trusting Gods other plans for me, but I am saying that if those plans would have worked out I would have got hurt so much more. So in reality God didn’t hurt me, he was just protecting me from what could’ve happened. At the time I’m sure just like some of you I kept saying but God why ,  why did you do this. I should have been telling myself but God, but God is so mighty and powerful so why don’t I trust him and what he’s doing? His plans for me are greater than anything I can imagine, so why can’t I have faith?

Jeremiah 29:11 : For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.

I know we think we have the best plan set out for our life and its tough when they don’t work out, but in Jeremiah 29:11 that gives us comfort that when those plans don’t work out God knows what he is doing.

Trust HIS plan

listen to Thomas Rhett

and be good to people for no reason.

with love & prayer,


You didn’t get a choice

{You didn’t get to choose your beginning, but you can change your ending and everything in between}

Jesus didn’t choose to be born in Bethlehem and have to flee to escape slaughter , BUT he made the choice to make the most of what he had, and because of that choice he effected so many people then and now AND all us sinful people have a hope, and a saving grace because he did choose to die on the cross for our sins. he left a legacy no one can ever rise above.

BUT!!!!! that does not mean the legacy you can leave won’t be remembered.

life isn’t fair. that’s something we’ve probably all grown up hearing. mainly because we don’t get something we want ( @ me ) , but have you ever really thought about it? straight out the womb it isn’t fair. we don’t get to choose the family we are born into or in some cases if people are born with disabilities.  some people are born into great, loving, supportive families. unfortunately that isn’t the case with everyone. others are born into broken families who barely even acknowledge their existence. that right there isn’t “fair”.

one thing that we are all born with is an opportunity. everyday we have the opportunity to go out, change someone’s life, and make a name for ourselves. some people just got a head start.

so, no matter what people say you can’t do because of your last name, your family, or your past, don’t give up. prove ’em wrong.

you got this, and God has you.

prayin’ for ya & best of luck !!

with love,

aubs 🙂

help yourself, first.

yes, i’ve always tried to live by putting others first. that’s what we are called to do, be self-less. we do however, need to make sure we are right in whatever we are trying to help someone with. whether that be with the Lord, someone’s struggling with a certain temptation, etc.

for those who have never been on a plane before, the flight attendant, before take off explains all the safety precautions. they also strongly express how in a state of emergency when oxygen is needed, place your mask on first before helping others. that seems pretty obvious right? because how are we supposed to help someone when you don’t even have what you’re trying to give. if you don’t have oxygen you aren’t going to be able to breathe to help someone else with theirs, if you aren’t right with the Lord you aren’t going to be able to direct someone in his right path, if you aren’t full of joy you aren’t going to be able to help others from getting their happiness taken away.

i know personally i’m always telling people “God’s got this”, “you can make it through”, “trust him”, but i don’t always tell myself those things and full heartedly believe it.

in order for us to help others in the best way possible we need to believe what we are telling them.

remember: help yourself, to help others.